meaning over happiness

This quotation was found on this interesting video:

Arthur Schopenhauer

“There is only one inborn error, and that is the notion that we exist in order to be happy… So long as we persist in this inborn error… the world seems to us full of contradictions. For at every step, in things great and small, we are bound to experience that the world and life are certainly not arranged for the purpose of maintaining a happy existence… hence the countenances of almost all elderly persons wear the expression of what is called disappointment.”


on defenses – passage from “Co-Creating Change”

Defenses alter the way we feel by altering the way we see or interpret reality, but they do not change reality itself. For instance, an adolescent girl uses denial when she has unprotected sex. She tries to change her internal state of anxiety rather than face external reality: she could get pregnant. Denial avoids her anxiety internally, but it creates a new problem externally. Defenses distort our perception of reality, resulting in pathological functioning (Haan 1977). Defenses also ward off unacceptable thoughts, impulses, and wishes (S. Freud 1894/ 1958). For example, if you ask a woman what she feels toward her boyfriend for hitting her, she might answer, “I think it was an immature thing he did.” She intellectualizes to ward off the anger she cannot accept.

Jon, Frederickson. Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques (p. 79). Seven Leaves Press. Kindle Edition.

Jung – various

"As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being."

"In many cases in psychiatry, the patient who comes to us has a story that is not told, and which as a rule no one knows of. To my mind, therapy only really begins after the investigation of that wholly personal story. It is the patient’s secret, the rock against which he is shattered. If I know his secret story, I have a key to the treatment. … In therapy the problem is always the whole person, never the symptom alone. We must ask questions which challenge the whole personality."

"The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are."

"Where love rules, there is no will to power. And where power predominates, there love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other."

"The Shadow is a moral problem that challenges the whole ego-personality, for no one can become conscious of the shadow without considerable moral effort. To become conscious of it involves recognizing the dark aspects of the personality as present and real. This act is the essential condition for any kind of self-knowledge, and it therefore, as a rule, meets with considerable resistance. Indeed, self-knowledge as a psychotherapeutic measure frequently requires much pains-taking work extending over a long period of time."

"Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word ‘happiness’ would loose it’s meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along, with patience and equanimity."

"Often, the hands will solve a mystery that the intellect has struggled with in vain."

"Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine or idealism."

"We deem those happy who, from the experience of life, have learnt to bear its ills without being overcome by them."

"If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves."

"Solitude is for me a fount of healing which makes my life worth living. Talking is often a torment for me, and I need many days of silence to recover from the futility of words."

"My friend it is wise to nourish the soul, otherwise you will breed dragons and devils in your heart."

"I therefore consider it wise to acknowledge the idea of God consciously, for if we do not, something else is made God; usually something very inappropriate and stupid such as only an enlightened intellect could catch forth."

Jung on death

“We are so convinced that death is simply the end of a process that it does not ordinarily occur to us to conceive of death as a goal and a fulfillment.”

“It would seem to be more in accord with the collective psyche of humanity to regard death as the fulfillment of life’s meaning and as its goal in the truest sense, instead of a meaningless cessation.”

“Death is the hardest thing from the outside and as long as we are outside of it. But once inside you taste of such completeness and peace and fulfillment that you don’t want to return.”

“…death appears as a joyful event. In light of eternity, it is a wedding…The soul attains, as it were, its missing half, it achieves wholeness.

“What happens after death is so unspeakably glorious that our imagination and our feelings ado not suffice to form even an approximate conception of it.”

A video interview on the topic of death

Jung – highroads of the world

"Along the great highroads of the world everything seems desolate and outworn. Instinctively the modern man leaves the trodden ways to explore the by-paths and lanes, just as the man of the Græco-Roman world cast off his defunct Olympian gods and turned to the mystery-cults of Asia. The force within us that impels us to the search, turning outward, annexes Eastern Theosophy and magic; but it also turns inward and leads us to give our thoughtful attention to the unconscious psyche. "